Saturday, December 21, 2013

More Christmas tips:guest post by Amy Bird, Navy Wife Author

We've heard from Nanette with some great tips on how to manage a deployment while your sailor is away. I'd like to add some more of my own, drawing on my experience a few years ago when my husband was deployed for 6 months, falling squarely across Christmas.

1. Take a relaxed approach to phone calls
We didn't manage to speak on Christmas day. This happens. I spent the day carrying the phone around, expecting it to ring. Then it got to about 6pm and I realised I might not get a call. I just had to accept that. It turned out that, not only had they had a comms failure, but the poor things had a dry Christmas without alcohol too. So although it is disappointing at Christmas not to be able to speak to your other half, just remember (a) as much as phones can fail on any day, they can fail on Christmas too (b) if you manage to speak, fantastic, but if not, don't worry about it and look forward to the next time and (c) at least you are at home, surrounded (hopefully) by family and friends - you are probably in a better position than your sailor.

2. Plan in advance
I realise this might not be much help for this year, but bear it in mind for next year! We always buy each other presents and cards in advance. It can seem silly wrapping a Christmas present in July, but it makes such a difference on Christmas day to open something special from your other half with a message just for you.

3. Enjoy some quality time with your family and friends
Christmas is not just about spending time with your partner. It is also a wonderful time to catch up properly over a long period with the rest of your family and other good friends, which can sometimes be put to one side when your sailor is around. Don't let yourself get down about it. Navy Wife Kate, in my thriller 'Yours is Mine' gets morose about her partner being away overseas, and makes some rather dangerous life choices - with pretty chilling consequences. You be different! Go stay with your family, plan ice-skating trips, see a silly Christmas film with friends. Although your partner isn't there, you'll be having a great time.

Wishing everyone a very happy Christmas - and remember, you are not alone.

You can find out more about Amy and her novel 'Yours is Mine' in the About Us and Our Books section.

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