Wednesday, March 6, 2013

5 Ways Navy Wives & Girlfriends Can Relax

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Over the past week or so I have been coming home from work and not having the energy to do anything, like little things, doing the dishes or the laundry, paying bills . . . oh, and the thought of going to the grocery store brought me to tears yesterday, literally.

Sometimes this happens. Well, probably not crying from grocery shopping, but everybody probably has at least one day a week when they come home from work too tired to do whatever chore they were planning on doing. However, for me this has been going on for a week or two now. At first I thought I was just having a hard couple of days until things started to get backed up around my house, and we started running low on stocked canned goods for dinner.

On top of that, my back problems have been acting up, I haven’t been exercising, and I’m eating junk food . . . like non-stop. My mood can shift from good to meltdown at the drop of . . . well actually nothing has to drop. Plus, I’m waking up feeling hung over when I haven’t had even a glass a wine the night before! Oh, and I’m pretty sure I’m still fighting off a cold I got at the beginning of February . . . as of the time I’m writing this, it’s March 5!

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What is wrong with me? Duh! I’m stressed out of my freaking mind and body! My taxes aren’t done, I don’t have a Power of Attorney yet, and all three of our vehicles have “issues.” Oh, yeah, and my husband is about to disappear for half a freaking year!

So what’s to be done about it? Well, if you are going through this too, I’ve got tips:

1.       I’m going to start by suggesting that you ask the man (or if you have teenagers) for some help. My husband offered to go grocery shopping for me . . . he saved my life. I cried again.

2.       Or at least, let him know what you are going through and ask for a little understanding when it comes to things getting backed up.

3.       Keep reminding yourself, even if you put on a couple of pounds and don’t sweep the floors for a month, when he goes away, you’ll have plenty of time to catch up on everything. Dude, losing weight is easy when you have no one to go to dinner with . . . sorry.

4.       Get a hug. From a friend, a family member, the hubby.

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5.       Take a F@#K$I% break! Give yourself the day off. Give yourself permission to not worry about any of this stuff. Take a bath. Read a book. Go to the beach, or just to the park. Take a walk, watch a movie, go to a movie, go out to dinner – you won’t get to again for six months! Can anyone tell I’m going through mood swings as I’m writing this?

And don’t forget . . . you are not weak or failing in some way for going through this. If we weren’t having a reaction to our men leaving, now that would be strange, and we are all so strong for going through this at all.  

Big digital hug!

I’m getting emotional again, aren’t I . . . ?

Want more stress relief and not that long term stuff that tells you to exercise and eat right, I'm talking, right here right now stress relief! Read these tips on the Short-Term Stress Relief post on Family Education.

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I dated and married my husband in 2004 when I was 19. I felt like an outsider for the first half of our marriage. He didn't understand what I needed to know about the Navy, and I didn't know what to ask.

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